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I left off when I had started a job and Dave stayed home to be care giver for dad. It was all very daunting to be sure. We talk about it now and there are e-mails that i may inject at a later time that show just HOW daunting it was!
Our main struggle is that we are still dealing with the VA and Aide and Attendants that we started back in 2014! I have called and mailed various papers that they said i didn't have in the package, but i think it's only because it was in the WRONG place, but it was there...ARGGG!
The other things we had to handle was losing the first Power of Attorney that dad had in place due to illness...therefor, i was next in line for it, which i DIDN'T really want to do, but no one else stepped up to say they would. At the beginning it seemed pretty straight forward, get checking accounts in order, (he had 3) keep it simple, pay bills, pay home care ppl, contact anyone who might have borrowed money from his estate and have them start payments...as i dove deeper into POA, i found out that it's all pretty complicated, ESPECIALLY from dad's accounts...but we are managing, it's been pretty rough going for the last 3 years, and i have close friends who would give me the shirt off their backs if i asked, and i just might have to if things don't start falling into place soon!
Christmas was pretty hard however, i got a call on Christmas eve, 2014 from the larger care home and they said he was rushed to hospital...I can tell you EXACTLY where i was when i heard this news, and was glad that my youngest daughter was driving...Dad spent 2 weeks in the hospital and we visited him often, if not every day. He had gotten Pneumonia and his heart and blood pressure meds had to be regulated before leaving the hospital. He was then put into a rehab place to help him get back to "normal" but that was never achieved...after 2 months and finding out that the Rose hills Acute Rehab place was negligent for several things that i finally made a call to the Ombudsman office and reported this horrible place! Because of his falls and frequent hospital visits, we determined a move to a smaller place was in order. I called Carol, from Senior care Solutions and she gave me a number to a place that was smaller and they actually had a spot open as well!! He is now in the same place, and on Hospice care, he is frail and can't speak very loud, gets confused when he is trying to form words, it is sad to see him now this way, and yet it has been gradual in my eyes, not so for those who haven't seen him in a few years...I love you dad.
